Question: "How do you let go of people without becoming bitter?"

Well the Bible says that two cannot walk together except they be agreed. If she does not want to be your friend anymore because you cannot compromise with what the bible says then she may not be a friend ordained from God. Sometimes God places people in our lives for us to be a witness to for a season, not to walk into our destiny with us and when that season is up it is time for that person to move on. That is why it is important for us to let our light shine for Christ.  You can't compromise your relationship with God for a friendship. When all of your friends are gone God will still be there. He promised us in his word that he will never leave us nor forsake us. . .

 

I have learned that the best way to not be bitter with someone is to pratice forgivness. Yes, your friend left you without an explaination but you must forgive her no matter how bad it may hurt. You must forgive her with all of your heart, mind, and soul and truly mean it. Make sure you continue to pray for her and remember that 1 plants, 1 waters, but God gives the increase.

 

Don't pursuade yourself that you are over the friendship and moved on . . . . move on. It will be best for you that you cut the soul tie between the two of you. A soul tie is the joining or knitting together of the bonds of a relationship. When you two were close friends you became like minded creating a soul tie. Ex: In the bible, Jonathan had so much respect for David that it created a soul tie. It was said in 1 Sam. 18:1 that the soul of Jonathan was knitted with the soul of David.

 

In order to really move on you should consider deleting  her number from your phone to help you over the obstactle of the pain you experience each time you look at her number and trust God enough that if he wants to he will restore the friendship again and let u reconnect with her. The Bible also says that the world loves its own(John 15:19). You will find that in your christian walk you will lose alot of friends becasue of your stand to withhold from sin like the bible says. Do not be discouraged because in time he will ordain you some friends who will stand for the same thing you stand for. As we grow in God, our friend selection should be orded by God as a good man's steps are ordered by the Lord. In all our ways acknoldge God and He will direct our paths.

 

Remember to lift your friend up in prayer and pray that God gives her the mind to not compromise with his word and to love him whole heartedly. A friend loveth at all times and . . . . (Prvbs 17:17)

 

Here are some scriptures to consider:

1 Cor 15:33-34

Prvbs 1:10, 4:14

James 4:4

Romans 12:2,9

1 John 2:15-17

Romans 1:32